A Promise is Eternal | 承诺是永恒的


Promises are made in moments of weakness. They are coping mechanisms that our ordinary mind conjures up when facing emotional overloads. Our need to belong, assure or appease compels us to make promises that we may not yet know of the consequences. And yet, we make vows in the moment of emotional turmoil, not that we know we can realise them, but, there are no better ways to cope with the overwhelming reality.

Impermanence teaches us that vows are doomed to fail. Not that we are incapable of fulfilling them, but often, it’s because we run out of time. But time is a fiction of our imaginative mind, and continuity tells us that time persists in another lifetime. Hence, so do our vows as they are etched into our feelings and emotions, and we unwittingly bring them along from one life to the next.

It is foolhardy to believe that a promise can solve any problem, except that it is a vow that burdens the promisor and the promisee. Regardless of the outcome, a promise is always founded based on a transaction and such relationships will not withstand the test of time. Even worse is when such relationships that existed in a previous life are not resolved in this life. Therefore, they will continue to play out in a future life as dictated by the principles of Karma.

We should never rely on promises to make us or others feel better, even when trying to raise hope, as there is no basis that a promise is enough. Instead, we should rely on our wits to do whatever is morally correct and necessary before we reach the point where we are compelled to make a promise. To put it simply, if we have chosen and planned our lives well, we should never have to make any promise to anyone in this life! And once we have learned to do this well in this life, likely, we will never rely on promises to help us get through our future lives. It’s a simple concept: habits maketh a person, this life and the next!

A promise is eternal: think again whenever you feel compelled to make a promise or a vow. You may unknowingly create reborn or unborn karmic creditors for your future lives.

人往往在软弱的时候做出承诺。 这是我们思维的应对机制,尤其是在面对情绪超载时的反应。为了满足我们对归属、担保、以及缓和的需求,迫使我们做出未知后果的承诺。 然而,我们在情绪动荡的时刻发誓,并不是因为我们知道可以实现它们,而是没有更好的方法来应对压倒性的现实。

无常提示着誓言注定要失败。 不是我们无法实现它们,而是我们不够时间。但是,时间是我们想象力的虚构,它还是在下一世持续存在。 我们的誓言也是如此,因为它铭刻在我们的感觉与感受中,我们不知不觉地将这些承诺从前世带来了今生,并且带去了来世。

相信一个承诺可以解决任何问题是愚蠢的:除了成为允诺人和承诺人的负担,并无其他意图。 无论结果如何,每个承诺总是建立在交易的基础上,因此这种关系永远经不起时间的考验。 更不可思议的是,前世存在的这种关系在今生没有即时化解而成了来世的因果。

我们不应该依赖承诺来让我们、或他人感觉更好(即使是为了给予希望),因为没有依据认为承诺就足够的。 相反的,在我们还没被迫做出承诺之前,我们应该依靠我们的智慧去做一些正确和必要的事。 简而言之,如果我们懂得选择和规划自己的生活,那么我们这辈子就不会对任何人做出任何承诺! 一旦我们学会了在今生做到这一点,我们很可能永远不会依赖承诺来帮助我们度过未来的生活。 这是一个简单的概念:习惯造就个人,今生与来世!


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